Endorsements

"Healing Together is not only a guide for couples struggling to cope with trauma; it is a beacon of hope. Phillips and Kane do what no others have in one simple to read book: They show couples how working together as a team will speed recovery and insure a lifetime commitment."
— Charles R. Figley, Author of Helping Traumatized Families and the Paul Henry Kurzweg, MD Distinguished Chair in Disaster Mental Health, Tulane University.

 “Healing Together” is profound in its scope and provides practical insights and skills that can be of enormous value to individuals and couples seeking for a lasting change rather then a ‘quick fix’. They will embark on an incredible journey with this book and ultimately be in control of their lives and their future. Suzanne B. Phillips and Dianne Kane are to be applauded for their monumental work in the field of Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress.
— Vali Stone is the author of Cop's Don't Cry, a book of help and hope for police officers as well as a Professor of English.

“This book is so perfect that I only read half of it before I said to myself, ‘I've got to hand deliver this book to Larry and Martha. Their relationship has been taking such a beating since the sudden freak accident that took their grown son. It is perfect for them right now.’”
—Charlie Walton, author of When There Are No Words and Packing for the Big Trip

“Healing Together is a beautiful book. It is clear, easy to read, and full of pragmatic insights for couples facing the echoes of trauma. The authors tenderly take a couple through issues such as dealing with anger and mourning loss and offer strategies for healing and relationship renewal. This book is an invaluable resource that will help couples face their traumas together.”
—Sue Johnson, Ph.D., professor of psychology at University of Ottawa and author of Hold Me Tight  

“Healing Together is a gift to couples and a valuable resource for those who work with them. It sensitively illuminates the impact of trauma and PTSD on relationships in a way that empowers couples to understand, listen, mourn, cherish life’s moments, and hope again. And Phillips’ and Kane’s contribution goes beyond the recovery of couples—it is a step both toward reducing the conspiracy of silence about the effects of trauma in families and toward preventing its intergenerational legacies.”
—Yael Danieli, Ph.D., Director of the Group Project for Holocaust Survivors and Their Children, Past-President and Senior Representative to the United Nations of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies.

“Finally, a book providing psychological first aid for couples experiencing trauma and its devastating ripple effect on their relationship. Here, in clear language, men and women can learn for themselves about PTSD, destructive anger, triggers, memories, dreams, and sexual issues—what to do about them and how to know when professional help is needed. Indeed, a caring and compassionate mate aids recovery, but there are times when more is needed. Phillips and Kane provide sound information and exercises for ‘healing together,’ making this book a must-read for military and veteran couples and any couples or partners who have experienced the pain of trauma, loss, or disaster—all too many of us.   
—Pauline Boss, author of Loss, Trauma and Resilience and Ambiguous Loss

“Healing Together is an essential resource for couples whose lives and relationships have been affected by traumatic experience, and is particularly valuable for couples involved in police work, firefighting, emergency medical services, the military, and other professions where there is significant potential for psychological trauma.  Writing in a straightforward and down-to-earth style that reflects the depth and breadth of experience working with couples — including more than 300 couples involved in rescue and recovery in the aftermath of 9/11 — Suzanne Phillips and Dianne Kane provide a wealth of information and insight into the nature of psychological trauma and its emotional and behavioral consequences. As importantly, they provide effective strategies and realistic solutions couples can use to restore and strengthen their relationships. This is no superficial touchy-feely self help book, nor is it an opaque academic tome filled with complex psychological theory and jargon; rather it is a thoroughly researched, clearly written, and very relevant practical guide for couples that treats trauma and relationships realistically and affords them the honesty, respect, and compassion they demand. This is by far the best guide I've seen for couples affected by trauma and post-traumatic stress.
—Vincent E. Henry, CPP, PhD, Associate Professor and Director Homeland Security Management Institute, Long Island University
Author of Death Work: Police, Trauma and the Psychology of Survival